"more time" is what we wanted, for awhile. At the end, I think a lot of people want their loved one to have Beth from Little Women's death: 'she looked around at each of them, and then, on the lap where she drew her first breath, she quietly drew her last.' Or something like that.

Obviously literarily effective, if I remember it decades later. But at the same time, just not what most of us get.

And on some level, I wonder if people are just hoping their loved one doesn't die, and that's what it's really about. But they're not even aware that's what it is, since realistically, they know better.

I think they should have waited to interview the families. In the first weeks, I can easily see people's grief manifesting as second-guessing the final steps to death.