fan_eunice | (no subject)

Am I back? I don't know if I am. I know I don't want to give up this space and this community, though I'm still not sure if that is possible. There have been some things in the last few days that give me some hope that I might. I keep trying to figure out what to say, because I have been feeling deeply hurt and frustrated...and don't assume you know why on either "side"...fuck, the fact that there is a frame of "sides" at all is part of the reason I've got one foot out the door of fandom right now.

I guess, this is what I want to say. Your needs are important. My needs are important. This persons needs are important. Practical realities are important. Sometimes context really doesn't matter, but other times it really does.

All of these things can be and often are in conflict with each other and the best we can do is to be mindful that life is NOT simple. Sometimes there is no one 'right' way or 'right' answer, and that shit gets messy. Try to keep in mind the paragraph above this when it does.

That is all.

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Date: 2010-07-04 02:43 pm (UTC)

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such_heights

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<3

Yeah, this hasn't been a pleasant few days for anybody involved. I hope that you find your hurt and frustration starting to ease away soon, whether that's by reconnecting online or taking a step back for a while.

Date: 2010-07-04 07:59 pm (UTC)

fan_eunice

It has not been fun, no. But I am very much looking forward to getting to hug you in person OMG. I do get a hug, right? I even plan on wearing my "Hugs Dealer" t-shirt the first day.

Date: 2010-07-04 08:17 pm (UTC)

:D I will be dealing out hugs like they're going out of style!

Date: 2010-07-04 03:21 pm (UTC)

laurashapiro

If last year's post-VVC discussions taught me anything, it's that context isn't just important, it's vital.

Thank you for continuing to speak. I'm continuing to listen.

Date: 2010-07-04 08:01 pm (UTC)

*hugs*

Date: 2010-07-04 09:56 pm (UTC)

::hugs::

Date: 2010-07-04 03:23 pm (UTC)

medley

I...have been under a rock and don't know what happened, but I'm hoping very hard that you will be comfortable here again and can stay. First and most importantly, though, take care of yourself. *hugs tight*

Date: 2010-07-04 08:02 pm (UTC)

Under a rock is good. Or, actually the kitteh blanket fort.

*HUGS*

Date: 2010-07-04 03:32 pm (UTC)

klia

Beautifully said.

*hugs*

Date: 2010-07-04 08:09 pm (UTC)

*smishes you tight*

Date: 2010-07-04 04:26 pm (UTC)

green

*hugs* Love you.

Date: 2010-07-04 08:10 pm (UTC)

loves ya back

Date: 2010-07-04 05:27 pm (UTC)

some_stars

hey, I just wanted to say that I really respect you and what you've been saying and this post. It is wise, and you are awesome.

Date: 2010-07-04 08:11 pm (UTC)

Thanks, dude. *SMISHES*

Date: 2010-07-04 06:25 pm (UTC)

minim_calibre

All of these things can be and often are in conflict with each other and the best we can do is to be mindful that life is NOT simple. Sometimes there is no one 'right' way or 'right' answer, and that shit gets messy. Try to keep in mind the paragraph above this when it does.

I <3 you. And I cling to you, for being able to say this so perfectly, where I'm just in that place of "not binary! not binary!" and not wanting to spill thousands of words of personal TMI for why I gut-level get this to be true.